Individual coaching
Come back to yourself.
Make space for your needs, understand your patterns, and find the words for what matters to you.
- Personal clarity & self-awareness
- Boundaries without the guilt
- Confidence in difficult conversations
The EnlighteningRELATIONSHIP & COMMUNICATION COACHING
You deserve relationships where you can be yourself.
Let’s create the awareness, confidence, and communication to help you get there.
A space to pause. A place to grow.
A new way to connect.

Certified Professional Coach · iPEC
MEET YOUR COACH

Hi, I’m Coach Shondella Baker-Barkley.
I help individuals, couples, and teams communicate with clarity and create more intentional connections. I’m an ICF Professional Certified Coach (PCC), an iPEC Certified Professional Coach (CPC), and an Energy Leadership Index Master Practitioner (ELI-MP). I’m also the voice behind Focused & Flourishing and the founder of The Enlightening Coaching Experience.
Sometimes you know something needs to change, but you don’t know where to start. Together, we make space to explore what you need, what keeps showing up, and what you want to do differently.
Let’s talk about what brought you hereWORK WITH ME
Whether you’re working on your relationship with yourself, your partner, or your team, there’s a place to begin.
Individual coaching
Make space for your needs, understand your patterns, and find the words for what matters to you.
Couples coaching
Move beyond the same argument and explore what each of you is really trying to say.
Groups & workplace workshops
Bring more awareness, empathy, and purposeful communication to your group or team.
THE CONNECT METHOD™
You don’t need to have all the right words to begin. My CONNECT approach makes room to notice your patterns, get curious about what’s underneath, and choose a more intentional response.
KEEP GROWING, BETWEEN CONVERSATIONS
A Guide to Healthy
& Transparent
Communication
THE BOOK
Explore empathy, boundaries, and more intentional communication in Speak from the Heart: A Guide to Healthy & Transparent Communication.
Explore the book on Amazon
FOCUSED & FLOURISHING
Relationship stories and real talk that turn everyday experiences into opportunities for deeper connection.
Watch on YouTubeA MOMENT TO REFLECT
“What would change if you felt safe
saying what you really need?”
You don’t have to figure it all out before you reach out.
Let’s start thereA LITTLE MORE CLARITY
Coaching can be a helpful space when you want to understand your patterns, communicate more intentionally, or make changes in your relationships. We can start with a conversation about what you’re looking for and whether working together feels like a good fit.
You can begin on your own. Individual coaching focuses on your awareness, needs, choices, and communication. Couples coaching creates space for both partners to participate.
Yes. Inquire about communication and leadership workshops for your team or group. Share your goals, group size, and timing so we can discuss an appropriate format.
Use the form below to prepare an email to Coach Shondella, or email shondella@the-ece.com directly. We’ll discuss your needs, scheduling, and current coaching options.
Coaching focuses on awareness, goals, and intentional action. It does not provide mental health diagnosis or treatment and is not a replacement for therapy.
YOUR NEXT CHAPTER STARTS HERE
Tell me a little about what’s on your mind.
We’ll explore the next step together.
Your first step is simply a conversation.